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posted by [personal profile] katherine_b at 05:27pm on 11/02/2005
This was another of those days that didn't go the way I expected it to. I had to drop the car off to have the alternator replaced. I thought (hoped!) it would take three hours, so I got it there before ten. I would have got it there sooner, but I had to help Mum to the toilet and into her commode chair so that Dad could wash her, and then help her back into bed afterwards. Our mechanic knows the situation, but I suppose it was too much for him to imagine that I'd want to get it done quickly. Our mechanic is more than half an hour from our house so I didn't think it was worth getting a taxi home and then another back there when it was finished, so I thought I'd walk around to Direct Factory Outlets (yay! shopping!) and then come back when it was done. I told our mechanic this.

I got there at about 9.40am and got ribbed a bit about it being afternoon and much later than expected. I pointed out that he hadn't given us a time to have the car there. So he was at work at 7am? So what? He said it wouldn't be ready until well after two. Still, that was only four hours so I checked that Dad was happy for me to stay out and went to DFO and then on to Southland. I walked around for a while and then realised that I was tired and hungry - and it was 2pm. I had lunch and sat reading in the food court for 30mins or so before catching the bus back to DFO and walking back to the mechanic. Got there about 3.10am and was told it would take another half hour. Even I know that translates to at least an hour.

So I was tired and sore, feeling guilty about not being home and looking after Mum and (I can say this here) sick of the whole situation and needing to feel guilty. I don't want her to go into palliative care, but it would take so much pressure off everything else.

We're having fish and chips for dinner. (It is Lent after all.) Will that make everything better?
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posted by [personal profile] shaddyr at 07:15am on 11/02/2005
Ah, KB. You have a heavy load on your shoulders. It's so difficult when a loved one is ill, and there is just something so heart wrenching when it's your mom.

(I can say this here)I don't want her to go into palliative care, but it would take so much pressure off everything else.

Yes you can say this here. If nowhere else, if to no one else, you can say it *here*. Cuz sometimes you just need to. I totally understand that.

::hugs::

You're in my thoughts, my dear. Hang in there.

 
posted by [identity profile] katherine-b.livejournal.com at 10:40am on 11/02/2005
Thanks, I really appreciate your thoughts and hugs. You know how rough it can be too. And it's great to have a place to vent. *hugs*
 
posted by [identity profile] wonderlanded.livejournal.com at 08:22am on 11/02/2005
Oh, sweetie, what a crappy day.

The palliative care thing is so hard, and huge hugs. It's such a tough time and such a tough decision. Hugs and masses of support -- let me know if you need anything. I can't remember if you're in Sydney or Melbourne? I'm in Sydney this weekend and Melbourne at the end of the month -- let me know if you want to grab a coffee just to unload and unwind.
 
posted by [identity profile] katherine-b.livejournal.com at 10:39am on 11/02/2005
Yup, it was. The fish and chips did help though. I'm feeling virtuous at having eaten fish in Lent and am currently trying to forget the red meat I also ate at lunch time.

I'm in Melbourne. It'd be fantastic to catch up and be able to put a face to the lj! Email me at katherinebruceATyahoo.co.uk and we'll organise a time!
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posted by [personal profile] euphrosyna at 09:23am on 11/02/2005
I'm sorry your day was so bad. :( Mechanics suck.
Don't feel guilty about anything you say here - venting really helps.
I hope you feel better. :( *huggles*
 
posted by [identity profile] katherine-b.livejournal.com at 10:37am on 11/02/2005
Thanks. The problem is that this mechanic is a nice guy (and about 20 years older than me and married, so get that idea our of your mind right now! *lol*), so I feel a littl bad bitching about him.

*appreciates huggles*
 
posted by [identity profile] allygatorkin.livejournal.com at 12:50pm on 11/02/2005
*hugs KB and pokes mechanics*

Sorry you had a crappy day but on a brighter note (I hope!! ;)) I have a LJ *dances*

Hmm should get back to work now........
 
posted by [identity profile] katherine-b.livejournal.com at 10:58pm on 11/02/2005
Hooray for you, getting an lj! I've friended you!

And thanks. *hugs back*
 
posted by [identity profile] bluecove.livejournal.com at 04:35pm on 11/02/2005
Sweetie, I've been where you are, and believe me, I understand. (For me, it was my father.) It's human nature to want out from under so much ongoing responsibility, not to mention how hard it is watching the person suffer. Feel guilty if you need to (I did), but know that your feelings in no way diminish your love for your mother. It's okay to want your own life, to wish fate hadn't thrown this at you. It's even okay to say so, out loud.

{{{{KB}}}}
 
posted by [identity profile] katherine-b.livejournal.com at 10:58pm on 11/02/2005
Thanks so much. I really appreciate your experience and sharing it with me. How's everything at your end?

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